I don't really remember how it goes, but in Joy Luck Club there's a part where one of the moms tells her daughter to learn to "swallow her bitterness" or something like that. Like I used to do that all the time when I was younger, and it would manifest itself in other ways. Like if I was mad at a friend, I wouldn't really say anything but as soon as I got home I'd totally pick on my brother for no reason. But most people wouldn't really know that anything was wrong. As I got older, I learned that okae that's not really healthy and that's not cool use my little brother as a scapegoat like that. So I let it out. Even it it's the smallest little irk, I want to talk about it so that there's no problems later on. But I guess it's not cool either. Can't seem to find a balance. I don't know how to just take it and let go.